I was just being nice
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Do you ever experience this? Someone of the opposite sex misinterpreting your intentions just because you're being nice. I don't want people to think I'm interested in them just because I'm making jokes and being nice. Sometimes you just want a friend, you know? :)
over 3 years ago |
Marta D.
VANCOUVER,
Canada
2107 posts
Oh I hate that. My boyfriend has that problem, he's too nice to everyone, and without noticing , girls misinterpret that as flirting :/
December 6, 2009
KatrÃn H.
LUND,
Sweden
1818 posts
It's really weird...I'm nice to guys I'm not interested in and guys I am interested in I just ignore...haha. I don't know why. Not entirely true though, I am nice to guys I'm interested in too! But yeah...
December 6, 2009
Olive K.
LOS ANGELES / THE SEA,
United States
2011 posts
I always try to help people out, especially the outcasts here, and they always like fall in love with me.... D:
December 6, 2009
Kat R.
LONDON // VIENNA,
Austria
293 posts
I dunno, I had that with nearly every male friend I had...and I just thought we were good friends - so I basically gave up being friends with guys - just because I'm "afraid" of that happening again....
December 6, 2009
Emily L.
United Kingdom
388 posts
yes i do, you have to be carefull with some people
December 6, 2009
Ting S.
VANCOUVER,
Canada
219 posts
Same here.
All the creepy guys from high school seemed to like me, because I was nice to them. =\
December 6, 2009
Mike V.
ROCHESTER, NY,
United States
139 posts
Take it from me, ladies: Men won't be friends with a lady unless at least a small part of them wants that female. Men don't just want to be friends with females. It is your own naivety that has caused these awkward situations.
December 6, 2009
Emily E.
MIDWEST,
United States
420 posts
i know excatly what you mean. its happening to me right now with 2 different boys. they text me nonstop and its so annoying! i just want to be friends and they dont understand that concept at all. one of them wants me to be his girlfriend so bad i've had to yell at him to lay off. apperently it didnt work to well.
December 6, 2009
KatrÃn H.
LUND,
Sweden
1818 posts
But why? I find it hard to believe that all men only hang out with females because they want them.
December 6, 2009
Marta D.
VANCOUVER,
Canada
2107 posts
is that really true?
I want to get more male opinions on this :\
December 6, 2009
Olive K.
LOS ANGELES / THE SEA,
United States
2011 posts
You can't honestly believe that you can't have a male friend that simply sees you as a friend..?
December 6, 2009
Daniel M.
LONDON,
United Kingdom
2494 posts
Mike V for the most part has it spot on.
Plus, change your surname, whatever it may be, to just V. That'd be killer.
December 6, 2009
Olive K.
LOS ANGELES / THE SEA,
United States
2011 posts
Well, I am friends with a lot of guys. I see them as just friends. Can't it be the same for guys?
December 6, 2009
Rachel-Marie I.
NEW YORK,
United States
50 posts
It is super hard to be friends with a guy sometimes. Females dont understand the power they have over males. All of my male friends are either ex's or they have wanted to date me in the past. I had a recent experience with a male friend thinking I wanted more too, now its super awkward and we prob cant be friends now.
December 6, 2009
Daniel M.
LONDON,
United Kingdom
2494 posts
For the most part, no.
Welcome to life!
December 6, 2009
Aurora ..
ONTARIO,
Canada
3744 posts
What about the gay guys? haha, my best friend is a guy... but I'm pretty sure he doesn't want me like that.
As for straight guys... I agree with you. But I think that they don't all realize it either. I've been friends with tons of guys and they've all had at least a bit of a thing for me, but most of them would never admit to it or have ever tried to do anything about it.
December 6, 2009
Lucas H.
THE INTERNET,
United States
23 posts
Basically it's like this: Legitimately talk to any guy and he's going to thing you're interested. Flirt with any guy and he is going to think you're interested even if it's just playful. Look at any guy and he's going to think you're interested.
December 6, 2009
Sara B.
NEWPORT, WALES,
United Kingdom
184 posts
not sure if i'm liking the whole guys must like you a little bit 'like that' too be friends with you.. theres 7 in the group i hang out with, only one other is a girl.. this can't be the case! most of my friends are guys, i'm seen as one of the guys coz we check out girls together, go to gigs drink pints haha
but i have the same problem, a guy i like didnt know i liked him AND he told me he backed off coz of someone else! rubbish! wish life was as obvious as putting friend stickers on guys :(
December 7, 2009
KatrÃn H.
LUND,
Sweden
1818 posts
That's what really annoys me about it, it ruins friendships because it makes everything really awkward...
December 7, 2009
Ben B.
FRANKFURT,
Germany
18 posts
Oh Marta - i know exactly what you mean.
I am too nice to everyone, thats how i am. I cant be an asshole. ( ohah sometimes :P)
Like you said before "without noticing , girls misinterpret that as flirting"
Even if i dont mean it like that.
December 7, 2009
KatrÃn H.
LUND,
Sweden
1818 posts
I still find it hard to believe guys actually can't see girls as "just friends". If girls can, why can't guys?
December 7, 2009
KatrÃn H.
LUND,
Sweden
1818 posts
Yes, I'm sure :)
December 7, 2009
KatrÃn H.
LUND,
Sweden
1818 posts
Don't they discuss boy-girl friendships in the movie When Harry Met Sally? I think I need to watch it again.
December 7, 2009
Lucas H.
THE INTERNET,
United States
23 posts
On the other hand, don't act like you don't know you're flirting ladies. :P
December 7, 2009
John S.
LONDON,
United Kingdom
360 posts
Yeah I think this is ridiculous. I'm bisexual and I certainly don't pick my friends or who I talk to purely based on who I'm attracted to. It just wouldn't work. And I have plenty of guy friends who are friends with girls they don't fancy. Or at least I don't think they fancy all of them?
December 7, 2009
Chris F.
FORT WORTH, TEXAS,
United States
6949 posts
This is the story of my life, sadly. Everyone assumes I'm flirting, or coming onto them, or whatever.
Apparently, I really weirded out this one girl I had a class with. She is REALLY stylish, REALLY REALLY REALLY. I loved it; every day she just strutted into class, looking like a model. And one day, we were walking out of the classroom at the same time; she's dressed as perfect as always. And I said, "I love your sense of fashion!" She replied, "...........yeah," and proceeded to sprint-walk away from me as fast as possible. She hasn't spoken to me since. :|
Ladies, just because I think you look or dress cute doesn't mean I'm going to rape you. CHILL.
December 7, 2009
Alexe G.
MONTREAL,
Canada
1917 posts
ALL the time! I just act nice, and somewhat flirtatiously I suppose, because it always happens, and it makes what was a good friendship stupidly awkward.
December 7, 2009
Jordan C.
VANCOUVER,
Canada
32 posts
Guys definitely can, and do. Just, more often than not, there will be mixed signals. I hate to say it but I doubt very many guys can really tell the difference between fun-flirting and interestedinarelationship-flirting. It simply comes down to the fact that every girl, and guy, shows their feelings differently.
There will ALWAYS be mixed signals and awkward situations, but in the end things mostly seem to work out.
December 7, 2009
Claire S.
GOLD COAST ,
Australia
166 posts
spot on. Ladies if you think girls and guys can be JUST friends, well, your kidding yourselves :)
at least this is true until your over 30 and the hormones have settled a bit haha
December 8, 2009
$o-fi K.
VT,
United States
260 posts
This happens to me all the time. I guess I need to lose a little faith in humanity, and avoid being nice to guys. But I can't stand most girls so where does that leave me? The worst was when this really cute guy, who, given, I have a little thing for (but I have no plans to act on it), told my other male friend he thought I liked him! Oh, so awkward, but luckily he doesn't know I know, and my friend set him straight that I really liked someone else, so I can at least pretend nothing happened. Or did it?
December 8, 2009
Chloe A.
MINNESOTA,
United States
3844 posts
I was just going to come to this thread and post, "I bet Chris has problems with this" haha
and if anyone gave me a compliment like that, I would hug them. Everyone in my classes is afraid of me because of the clothes I wear. D:
December 8, 2009
Vivian N.
HOGWARTS,
Canada
191 posts
All the time. Haha. But, also, since i'm so nice to everyone, all the guys I do like, never realize that i'm interested.
December 9, 2009
Vivian N.
HOGWARTS,
Canada
191 posts
Omigod, I know! I'll compliment someone, and it'll freak them out. Makes for some awkward moments.
December 9, 2009
Olivia F.
LOS ANGELES,
United States
165 posts
being nice has its drawbacks definetly
December 9, 2009