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Sliced B.
THE INTERNET,
Hong Kong
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OG since: 07/18/2009
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The other day an acquaintance of mine was complaining rather excessively to me regarding her opinion about teenagers and love. She essentially said that at our age saying that we've found or are in "tru luv" is ridiculous and silly and that most of the couples that we are acquainted with are dumb.
I don't consider myself the type of person who would use words like 'love' lightly and I suppose it is silly to throw it around but I found what she said really judgmental and it made me angry. Imo, it kind of reflected society's general view regarding teenagers and 'love'.
When teenagers use the word, people usually stifle a condescending grin, pat their backs and say that they're still young and don't understand the magnitude of using words like that.
I don't understand why love can only used to describe adult emotions. I don't why teenager emotions are always belittled to being called a crush or being described as 'kinda liking' someone.
When I really thought about it, I think that teenagers are probably at the stage of life where they are most likely to fall in love. i mean, think about our rushing hormones! think about our youthful idealism!
HOW CAN WE NOT FALL IN LOVE?!
idk - i'm just discussing / looking for interesting input. share, please?
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Rokkii K.
NEW YORK,
United States
143 posts
Member since: 01/06/2011
honestly, i know some adults [like my parents] who still don't know what love means. i think the true meaning of love is just that you love the good and the bad about the other person without doubt and without trying to change them. with that definition in my head, maybe people don't think teenagers are capable of loving someone because the teenage years are notorious for feeling awkward & insecure & finding where you belong in the world. however there are always exceptions and sometimes 2 people can help each other to accept themselves. i think it depends on the couple.
posted Jan 18, 2011
Anna L.
ENGLAND,
United Kingdom
347 posts
OG since: 07/19/2010
I hate cynics, I hate people that critisize love. Love is anything you want it to be, remember opinions aren't facts..if you think you're in love in that moment, you probably are..
Also the whole love and lust thing? What's love without lust anyway, in a relationship that is.
posted Jan 18, 2011
Anna L.
ENGLAND,
United Kingdom
347 posts
OG since: 07/19/2010
You can't form a judgement on someone elses experience though, experiences make opinions and like I said opinions-aren't facts. People I think have to experience things for themselves, not everyones the same and therefore there will be different outcomes.
Sorry this probably doesn't make any sense whatsoever, but it does to me haha :)
posted Jan 18, 2011
Clara C.
THE KINGDOM OF RUST,
United Kingdom
572 posts
Member since: 12/30/2010
That's totally ridiculous, of course you can be properly in love as a teenager. Just because the vast majority throw it about, doesn't mean we're all so immature. It doesn't happen too often admittedly, but it's possible to find love in your teens.
A lot of so called 'adults' don't have a clue about love either, it just happens when it happens.
I feel I truly love someone, it's not like butterflies and all that crap, but it's this feeling of just knowing them inside out, and I don't know what I'd do without them
posted Jan 19, 2011
Omar C.
LONDON ,
United Kingdom
111 posts
Member since: 12/18/2010
OMG I ONLY READ THE FIRST PARAGRAPH....Which was more than enough I feel I should add.
True love is subjective and can conquer all. People should not judge unless there are obvious signs of disingenuousness and dishonesty!
That is a very immature view from a person with some form of emotional indentations, as a result of previous hardship. Labelling teenagers as dumb is probably a form of consolation and compensation for these misfortunes. People who make those sorts of accusations lack sensitivity. Of course u can be in love as a teenager!!!!!!!! God- we are old enough to think for ourselves but adults place so many burdens on us- then they wonder y we get so pissed off and rebel. No one has the right to mitigate the love between two people that is very personal!
posted Jan 19, 2011
Sydney M.
CANADA,
Canada
210 posts
OG since: 07/03/2009
i think teenagers can definitely be in love, but only if you love the person no matter who they are, what they do, how they act, how they look, etc... But if teenagers force themselves to be in love, then it's obviously not genuine. Also, if two people break up and one of them honestly moves on super fast or doesn't feel any remorse, then the two people weren't in love.
In the end, it all depends on the people. I have a person in my life who claims to be in love with their partner when they go around calling other girls pretty, and wanting to walk them home from school and hang out with them on the weekend. He says he's soooo in love with his girl but obviously he isn't if he's willing to spend a majority of time with other girls. Sorry i kind of turned this into a rant, but it was on my mind.
Lovely topic :)
posted Jan 19, 2011
Christina A.
TEXAS,
United States
614 posts
OG since: 06/06/2010
I totally believe teenagers can be in love! The problem is just that a lot of people use it so casually and in such a shallow way that it makes everyone think that all teenagers are that dumb about it, plus at this age we're growing and changing a lot so it's hard to find someone when you're trying to find yourself still. But I've been with the same guy for three years and we've both changed a lot but we're still in love and it's great and better than ever, you just need to be mature and find someone that you can grow with. But I don't think teenagers should make that their number one goal. My twelve year old cousin was ranting that she needs a boyfriend because she's sick of being single and egad, you're in like what, sixth grade? Just wait til you find someone, don't date just to date.
posted Jan 19, 2011